because it's ways of communication!

i'm just going to throw a quick post up with all the ways you can contact me! (:

twitter: @aasdfghjklove

facebook: www.facebook.com/yona.chow

tumblr: kaleidoscopepipdreams.tumblr.com

instagram: aasdfghjklove

email: yona.chow@hotmail.com

ask.fm: www.ask.fm/yonachow

do feel free to pop by and say hi! i won't bite you, i promise! (:

you're all wonderful, and i'll talk to you all soon!

xo, yona.

because it's just one of those days.

you know those days you get when you're just so drained? and when the gloomy weather adds to it? yep, that's exactly how i feel. it's a crappy feeling! it's especially worse, when your boyfriend, someone who is supposed to be your BEST FRIEND, just ignores you for an entire week. an ENTIRE. WEEK.

i do understand that long distance relationships are extremely straining, and that he's still in school now. and i do KNOW that senior year is especially important, but i always thought it's an act of caring to make time for your girlfriend. is that true or not true?

i'm just going to make the point of if you have any real interest in gaining the trust of someone and finally EARN the trust, uphold it. why? because trust is HARD to give out. it's hard to forgive, and it's hard to be open. it's probably the second most 'sacred' thing (yes, i referred your virginity to sacred. don't ask me why -- i'm trying!!), and it's definitely a privilege to have. trust is a wonderful thing that will take a lot of time and patience to earn! and if you EVER have the nerve to destroy anyones trust... you are one sick, sick, sick individual.

it's probably pretty relatable when i say that, because i personally have mile high walls surrounded around me. i don't tell anyone anything, i don't tell people what's on my mind, and i especially don't share my past. it's a private thing, i think to share your past.

but! i have come up with ways to learn how to cope with abused trust! now, when i say 'i have come up with ways to cope with abused trust'... i say it meaning it's ALL based on my OWN experiences. so, here are they way I cope with abused trust...

1. KNOW AND RECOGNIZE THE SIGNS. why this is so important, is because if you keep making the same mistakes... are you ever really going to trust again? some signs i've noticed include: backing out on promises (big or small, a promise is a promise), they're constantly talking about themselves, they don't make time for you, and lastly, the only advice they can ever give you is 'everything is going to be alright. i'm always here for you, you know that right?' because really... if you are, they WHY are you never around when people need you?
2. START WITH THE SMALL THINGS, THEN MOVE ONTO THE BIG THINGS. it's never a crime to not tell anybody anything. EVEN if they do get mad at you, it's your personal life, and them being mad at you just shows they don't really care -- they only care for a story to tell. those are the ones you stay far, far, faaar away from. don't EVER let anyone treat you like crap simply because you're not willing to share someone private with them. it's your privacy -- your business. not anyone elses.
3. HAVE A MUTUAL TRUST RELATIONSHIP. once you've actually reached the point of able to slowly open up to someone, also start to do the same. i mean, i would hope that you already gave the other person some trust, and that you've actually genuinely cared enough to listen to their bad days. it's all about manners! but honestly, having a mutual trust relationship is fantastic. you're able to tell them everything, and they're also able to tell you everything without being judged. isn't that a wonderful thing?! (cue the awwwwwwww!)
4. FOLLOW YOUR GUT INSTINCTS!!!!!!!!!!!! more times then not, your gut will BE TELLING YOU WHAT TO DO. it's the one feeling you CAN trust. yes, it is your choice, and yes you can choose to not follow your gut. sometimes it works out fine, and other times, not so much. but if you DO have a strange feeling, DO be more cautious. DO establish a strong relationship before opening up. your gut knows you well. and they recognize their potential better then you can interpret yourself.

yeah, i will admit i never followed my gut instincts, but now i've learnt my lesson! but honestly, he is a fantastic guy when he is around. he definitely treats me well, but the whole never-giving-me-time is heartbreaking. after a year, you'd think they'll try to make an effort with you EVEN after they know they've been bad at it... but anyways!

i hope some of these tips help you with your trust issues! i know it's definitely a hard thing to do, especially when you really want a good relationship with someone, and when your trust has been abused so many time.

however, you have my scouts honour (do people still use that...)! IF, for any reason, you happen to be going to anything, and i mean anything, do feel free to pop me an email. i'll be more than willing to help and listen! you can do it anonymously, change the names and whatnot -- anything and anyway. i'll listen, reply, and help you to the best of my abilities. sometimes, talking to strangers open you up a little more!

you're all wonderful, and i'll talk to you soon!

xo, yona.

ps, i WILL have that haul video up sometime soon, and i WILL finish up that wedding and july photoblogs!! i've been working everyday this week, and university is starting up super soon, so fingers crossed i'm still able to do those before! for those of you who have started classes, i hope you're enjoying yourself, and those returning soon, have a fantastic first day! and i hope everyone has a magical school year! (:

because there may be changes?!

so! i've mentioned that i've wanted to do something similar to a haul video, and this is probably a preview! first haul i'm thinking of is a summer haul, then a back to school haul, and then monthly hauls? who knows though! fingers crossed i get one in 'cause that'd be SO fun!

my TNA tote bag! preview, maybe?!

i WILL finish that wedding/july photoblog! i've been quite busy lately, and dealing with some emotional aspects of my relationships with people...

you're all wonderful, and i'll talk to you soon!

xo, yona.

because it's punta cana, dominican republic!

well, july was a whirlwind of excitement - both in positives and negatives.

july 6th, we jetted off to toronto whilst en route to punta cana! why? well, it was for a wedding, of course! it was a LONG night. we left calgary at ...4PM i believe, and arrived at the toronto pearson airport at around midnight, and had a FOUR hour layover. the layover was... something. thankfully, we got free hotel rooms!!!! i got to shower and brush my teeth. hurrah for not being smelly! hahaha, but anyways, on with the pictures!

because i've been gone for so long!!!

hello, hello!

my apologies for not being on for SO. LONG. i promise i'll try to come blog more often (even though no one really reads this!). man, a lot has happened lately, and i'm definitely going to catch everyone up on the happenings of the past two-ish(?) months!

so! again, short little photoblogs ALL of which will have blurbs underneath/included.

you're all wonderful, and i shall talk to you all soon! (:

xo, yona.

p.s, i'm considering doing little haul videos... those'll probably make me WANT to blog more. so fingers crossed that all happens!